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Dita De Boni looks at the trials and tribulations of being a parent and mother to her two children

A half year of hell in New Zealand

1:14PM Friday August 21, 2009

If anyone can find any reason why many of the people in the list below shouldn't face the death penalty, much less be allowed to breed or "parent", please let me know. Because I can't find one.

AUGUST 20, 2009

A three-year-old Palmerston North girl dies from what's thought to be extensive, non-accidental head injuries at the local hospital. She was named today as Kash McKinnon.

AUGUST 11

A 17-month-old toddler from Kamo, Tinisha Walker, is flown to Starship with serious injuries, where she remains in a critical condition. Police were tight-lipped about who assaulted Tanisha but they were "talking with her family". Subsequently, a 39-year-old man is due to appear in the Whangarei District Court next month charged with assaulting her. He has name suppression.

AUGUST 8

A two-year-old Kaitaia girl, Jacqui Peterson-Davis, dies in Starship Hospital. Police confirm there are "bruises on her body" and head injuries but won't elaborate. A woman (name suppressed) in her early 30s is charged with assault, and more charges may follow. The family of the woman, showing her full support, admit they are "struggling to come to terms" with the incident. It is then revealed that the little girl had been the subject of at least one CYFS notification during the months leading up to her death.

AUGUST 2

A four-month-old boy from Papakura is taken to Starship with "non-accidental brain injuries" and remains in a critical condition. His teenage parents are cooperating with police but the family home becomes the scene of further police investigation of other criminal activity. Neighbours describe the house as a "nonstop party house".

JULY 27

Foster carer Karen Alice Robinson stands trial in the Rotorua High Court for the murder of 14-month-old Melissa Sale in 2005. Melissa died of a traumatic brain injury and had extensive bruising on her face and at the back of her eyes. Robinson was convicted of manslaughter this month and will be sentenced in October.

JULY 22

Motueka mother Cassandra Albert, who gave her four-month-old baby severe brain damage by shaking him, is sentenced to three years and nine months. Albert and her partner Newton Samuel Moki were jointly charged with failing to provide the necessities of life after failing to get the boy help for nine hours during which he had seizures and profuse sweating.

JULY 15

Rotorua man Frank James Brown, who punched his 14-month-old at least twice in the head, is sentenced to three years and nine months in prison. The injuries put the child in hospital for three nights.

JUNE 29

A depositions hearing reveals that Kerikeri beneficiary Kyle Skerten is to stand trial for the murder of his 16-month-old stepson Riley Justin Osborne. Riley died after four days at Starship Hospital from his injuries - a fractured skull, bleeding on the brain and eye injuries - so serious that a pediatrician told the court that he'd last seen the like when a child fell 11m on to bare concrete. Skerten will stand trial in September.

JUNE 15

The mother of a wheelchair-bound (then) eight-year-old appears in the Manukau District Court on assault charges. Some of the injuries inflicted on this boy include being beaten, burned with cigarettes, and starved. Two children still live with her. From the Herald, "[his] school found bruising and swelling around his genital area and he had blood-stained urine. Fears grew when the previously overweight boy lost around 25kg in a short period". [His] teacher claims the boy told her he sometimes was not given dinner or breakfast and was arriving at school teary, tired "and even lifting a pencil took great effort".

JUNE 5

One-year-old Trent Matthews is found dead in his family lounge in Rotorua. He had been taken from his mother soon after his birth and placed in the care of his uncle Joe Matthews. Matthews' partner Sasha Pene is charged with assaulting the boy.

MAY 14

Mary Joachim, 28, is sentenced to three years in the Auckland District Court for failing to provide the necessities of life to her son, seven-year-old Duwayne Pailegutu, who died in 2008 eight days after being savagely beaten by his step father Johnny Joachim. Duwayne was given a beating that left him partly paralysed and semi-conscious because he'd left a jumper at school. For several days afterwards he was unable to move and wore nappies because he was unable to get to the toilet he was in so much pain. According to the Herald report, "In an attempt to "shock" Duwayne into movement, Joachim dipped his paralysed foot into boiling water, leaving the largest of four scald wounds on his right leg. When he became frustrated that Duwayne could not move, Joachim threw him against a wall. And for the six weeks before his death on July 2 last year, Duwayne had been living with three broken ribs." His mother kept her son from school and misled the school about her son's whereabouts before he died in agony.

MARCH 7

JayRhis Ian te Koha Lock-Tata dies in Auckland's Starship Hospital after suffering severe head injuries - either having been beaten or having had his head knocked against something. His father Adam Christopher Lock, 22, is charged with his murder.

FEBRUARY 17

Three-year-old Cherishsiliala Tahuri-Wright, known as Cherish, is found injured and struggling to breathe by paramedics at her Marton home and later died at Palmerston North Hospital. A 56-year-old woman has been charged with her murder.

- Dita De Boni

Pictured above: Toys outside a Rotorua house where Trent Matthews died. Photo / Alan Gibson

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Comments

Head Space

Auckland

1:22PM Tuesday
25 August 2009

We need a license to drive a car, a license to operate a food stall, a license to operate a forklift. but we don't need to demonstrate any aptitude or ability whatsoever if we want to do the most important job and be in charge of the next generation.
No amount of political correctness will alter the fact that some people ought to be denied the right to breed.

Lost voice

United Kingdom

1:21PM Tuesday
25 August 2009

Without ever having concieved or reared children, Helen Clark was in no position to ignore seriously good advice instead of anti-smacking, but she did. This bartering of legislation has cost little New Zealanders their lives and politicians who think it's a bit of plea bargaining to gloss over the real problems have blood on their hands. For goodness sake New Zealand, wake up!

John Key is likely to be no better.

Anyone who takes the life of another should serve life, no parole, no hope, no forgiveness. Anti-smacking is a piece of failed legislation right from the start, as is uncoroborated evidence. You seriously undermine your own society by both preying on primitive fears on the one hand and criminalising smacking on the other.

This is the 21st century and I think children and all citizens deserve a lot better than this. Sue Bradford can feel smug about her percieved achievements, but they are are worthless if children are being slaughtered in their own homes by dysfunctional psychopaths that are wholly home-grown. You really do have a problem that will not be solved by saying it's happening in other countries.

English Mother

Waiatarua

1:20PM Tuesday
25 August 2009

Reading these comments I can understand the anger, but tougher sentences wouldn't have saved these children.

The crimes are not calculated crimes. While one can imagine a thief considering the sentence for robbing a bank when weighing up the risks and rewards, child abuse by a family member is not pre-meditated. Tougher sentencing might make the communiaty feel better, but it wouldn't prevent these crimes.

First time mum - name supression for the accused may prevent the victim, or other siblings being identified, rather than being for the benefit of the accused.

I think - whether it is the intention of the act or not, the Anti-Smacking Bill gives us all an excuse to question parents who hit their children in public; we have just witnessed a crime. It also gives the police and CYPS a reason to look at parents who appear to be losing control.

PCL - a surrender system for parents relies on foster homes for these children. Social service struggle to find an appropriate safe place for existing children

Having raised two children, it is hard, with very little support when things get tough. The support system needs fixing to help parents beforethey lose control.

y h

Avondale, Auckland

1:20PM Tuesday
25 August 2009

This is a tragically huge problem that we all wish we could solve but no-one really has an answer to.

Our first reaction to the pain and torture of these innocent kids is to lock up the offenders and throw away the key (that is, if we're able to suppress the urge to inflict the same pain upon them as they have their victims).

But being locked up is obviously not a deterrent and the circumstances surrounding such abuses must be extreme.

I have yet to read about an upper class family killing one of their kids and it would seem that most if not all of the families involved are lower class.

This does not and never will excuse any crimes.

But this situation is what the anti-smacking bill sought to address if only in principal.
People living in despair under financial strain will exercise "good parental correction" to differing degrees depending on their circumstance making these kids our most vulnerable to harm.

These people lost reasonable long ago.

We have laws against smoking and speeding that will not suddenly stop them from happening, but they communicate our intent on what is for the safety of all.
For these kids smacking leads to beating and a beating ends in death.

RM

Pakuranga

1:11PM Tuesday
25 August 2009

There is no excuse for these actions & the message obviously isn't getting through.

People need to step in and do something for these children. If you see it happening on the side of the street or hear it in your neighbours back yard DO SOMETHING! Don't wait till it's too late. New Zealander's are all too well known for minding their own business but where children getting beaten are concerned, im sorry im going to make sure it's my business.

Children are children and we are here to educate them to do what's right not to beat in to them what they've done wrong.

I was beaten as a child and know all too well what it felt like. I can say that it has taught me patience and to understand that a child is only a child and although I don't have children of my own yet, I know that I will never lay a hand on them because it will only teach them that violence towards others and in the home is acceptable.

Come on New Zealand if your going to have the balls for something, if you see violence step in and do your bit, preventing a child from being beaten is not a burden it is the solution.



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